Why Try At All?

What’s the good in trying? Why do things different, hoping that they will turn out better, when time keeps proving us wrong? Why try to avoid heartache, disillusionment, error, or pain, when in the end we always come back to it? What is the purpose in it all?

I’ve been asking myself that question for weeks now…no, years, if I’m honest.

We try to follow a better way, a safer way, or a more moral way. Yet, it just doesn’t seem to pay off. So why do it?

We dress modestly, not because we just LOVE the modest styles, or being not as attractive as other girls…no. We do it out of love, out of a commitment to love the men around us, by not drawing them in by our bodies. Because we are told that loving others, that sacrificing, is much more desirable to a godly man than a hot looking dress. Yet…that doesn’t seem to pay off. We stand along the wall, in our cute, but modestly covering, dresses, while all the guys dance by with the ‘hot girls’.

We don’t date in the traditional manner, because we believe that waiting is not just respecting ourselves, but also the man we will someday end up with. Because having someone for a night is not as profitable as fitting ourselves to be a lifetime companion. Because with each new boyfriend, you’re giving away a piece of your heart that you’ll never get back again. Yet, again, so many of us have ‘not dated’ ourselves into oblivion, while those other girls have kids that they give to someone else to bring up each day, while they pursue their ‘real lives’.

We follow a more humble path, because we believe what the scriptures say about leading a quiet life being more profitable…we give up dreams of being in the spotlight, fame and fortune in our grasp, to serve others with our lives instead. And yet once more, we became a fixture in the background, with nothing to show for ourselves but bruised and soiled hands.

I suppose it’s the hope. The hope that our children will have better. The hope that one day, those choices we make might change the world, if only just a little bit. The hope, the belief, that Christ would have us strive to do so, whether it seems to pay off, or not.

I don’t have answers. I just know that even though our choices seem to land us into the very heartache that we wish to avoid in the first place, it’s better to have tried than to have settled. Because, if you have the will to try in the first place, then you will be able to pick yourself back up, dust off your pants, and keep moving on. Because someday, down the road, it will all pay off.
And you’ll be proud of the choices you made, because you made them based on your values, and on your faith in Christ. It’s not just because of the outcome that we do things. It’s because of our faith. And that’s all that really matters.


11 thoughts on “Why Try At All?”

  1. Doing things God’s way may not appear to be working in the short term, but he always rewards faithfulness, trust, and obedience. It may take longer to see the fruit, but it will come. God has a very special plan for each of us, and that plan cannot be thwarted. If that plan includes marriage nothing will prevent it. Your Mr. Right is out there waiting just for you. On the day you give yourself to him as a pure and holy bride both you and he will know that it was unspeakably worth the wait.

    1. Thank you, that was very sweet, Mama B!! I love you for saying that.

      However, I wasn’t really speaking on my own behalf, so much as for other young girls who’ve chosen to walk a less traveled path, some of whom have grown disillusioned with it all.

      I just wanted to encourage them, that there is a reason to go through it, to face whatever life throws at them, and to stand firm in their faith; knowing that God is pleased with the sight of them holding fast to Him.

  2. Often the road less traveled seems hard & lonely — but you do well to reflect on “why travel this road” — the Psalmist in Psalm 73 had the same type of thought… “Surely in vain I have kept my heart pure and washed my hands in innocence” …… “When I pondered to understand this (this being how it appears the evil people have it easy & are having ‘more fun’), it was troublesome in my sight until I came into the sanctuary of God; then I perceived their end….. For, behold, those who are far from You will perish;
    You have destroyed all those who are unfaithful to You. But as for me, the nearness of God is my good; I have made the Lord GOD my refuge, That I may tell of all Your works.” The whole chapter is encouraging to me! It helps me to be more like Moses (when he chose to walk by faith and not merely by sight — and he made wise choices based on long term hope & expectations of future rewards) “By faith Moses, when he had grown up, refused to be called the son of Pharaoh’s daughter, choosing rather to endure ill-treatment with the people of God than to enjoy the passing pleasures of sin, considering the reproach of Christ greater riches than the treasures of Egypt; for he was looking to the reward. ” ~ Heb. 11:24-26

    So awesome not to look short term — but look at life through His perspective!! It makes choosing “hard” things more bearable when we know the reward He has waiting…. He honestly seeks BEST for us — so wise to pursue His ideals with complete surrender — leaving the results to Him!!! What a mighty and loving God we serve!!!

    Love you!!!

  3. You might find my blog of interest where I critique Josh Harris’s book:

    “I Kissed Dating Goodbye: Wisdom or Foolishness?”

    I believe his book has both. Unfortunately Josh Harris isn’t that transparent about sharing the problems his approach has caused though he is quick to point out what he sees as the defects of dating.

    Hope this helps.

  4. Insightful post indeed. The path of God never promised to be easy; it only promised strength, peace, and a worthwhile end. And if one must experience sadness and heartbreak, it is better that it be endured for good ends than for ill.

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )


Connecting to %s